this is what happened at the scene with the casket: so the mama with the baby arrived, and then the old man arrived. Then they talked about how Kirsti went to bed because the meeting was "private", then mama went to cook. Then Annemarie remembers when Lise died and how every night their friends brought food over. And they weren't talking about the better times with great aunt Birte because there wasn't an aunt Birte. Then they said silent prayers for the aunt.
Ellen found her parents at the end of the chapter, Peter brought them and Uncle Henrik was about to bring them out on his boat.