The Fears Of Difference
“Better to sleep with a sober cannibal than a drunk Christian.”
People that are different are scary. Meeting new people can be one of the most nerve racking experiences of your life. Finding out that they are extremely different from you can be even worse. I have had this experience multiple times, and have had to learn how to get around the differences. You have to find a middle ground and make the experience interesting. One time that I remember this happening to me, was on my soccer team in 7th Grade. In 7th Grade I was on the Strikers soccer team, which was tons of fun, the thing was that I didn’t know anybody on the team. As it turned out, most of the people on the team where actually extremely different to me, not only in the way they played, but in the way they thought. At first it was very challenging because it’s hard to make friends with people that you’re not similar to, but as we played more as a team I felt us come together as a group. I think the way we did this was by finding a middle ground that we all agree on, and build a friendship from there. Another time I’ve experienced this was when I was first skippering a 420, and my crew was a quiet kid that like to keep to himself and focus on the task at hand. To be successful, there has to be a strong bond of trust and communication between the skipper and the crew throughout their time together. I figured out that it was best if I did most of the talking, and he could butt in at any time to point anything out. It ended up working out perfectly because he wasn’t pressured at all, but he ended up having opportunities to take control of a situation and face his fears. No matter how different you think you are from someone, there’s always a middle ground.