You Never know how your words might affect others
By Rory Kennealy
“Exclusion is a pain that no one should feel”
Being excluded might not seem like the biggest of deals at the time, but it is. This happened to me in 5th grade, when I was excluded from various basketball games. When I was in fifth grade I would always want to play basketball with the kids who were considered the best at basketball in the grade. Most of the time they said to no to me. It might not have seemed like a big deal, but it hurt at the time.
In 5th grade Most recesses I would go to the gym with hopes of playing a game of pickup basketball. In fifth grade, I was really starting to get into basketball, so it made sense that at recess I would try to play basketball. The kids that I wanted to play with were all really good, and they took the games seriously. That is what I wanted a game that was taken seriously with good players.
Every recess I would walk up to the game. Most times they were already playing. I would ask them “can I play with you guys.” Most times they would reply with “maybe if you find another player.” So I would wander around the gym looking for players once I found one I went back to the game and asked can we play. They would almost always respond with no. This hurt, and it made fell like I didn’t belong. All I wanted to do was play basketball, and get better at playing basketball. It would always make me think am I not good enough to play with them, or do they just not like me. This led me to just not go to the gym. I knew that the kids weren’t going to let me play with them, so I decided just to not play with them. I soon realized that this was irrational. I decided to ask one of the kids before the game if I could play, they said yes. It doesn’t matter if someone is not good, it doesn’t matter if they’re not your friend, and it doesn’t matter who they brought to play. All that matters it that they want to play with you, and you should always let them play with you.
This experience taught me to never exclude anyone from a game. No matter how good there are. It made me feel sad, and I didn’t want other kids to feel that way so now I always let kids play with me.